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5 Tips for Rebuilding Relationships for Siblings Separated by Foster Care

When sibling groups are placed into foster care, often times they become separated from one another. Although many agencies make a great effort to keep siblings placed together, the sad reality is that many of these youth are often placed into different homes when they enter into foster care. One of the most unfortunate outcomes for youth aging out of foster care is having limited, fractured, or non-existent relationships with their biological siblings who may remain in care or have already aged out of the system. As young people transition into adulthood, they tend to want to restore relationships with their biological family, especially their siblings. However, when exploring a relationship, many young people may find that they don’t exactly know what to say or how to engage with their siblings to reconnect with them in meaningful ways. Below is a list of five practical tips to help jumpstart the development of any relationship that may have been damaged by sibling separati...
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Foster Kids To Trump: Families Belong Together!

Last week, I connected with a young man in foster care. I casually asked him about his weekend plans and he told me that he planned on attending the, “Families Belong Together” march in Phoenix, AZ with his peers who are also in foster care. I was pleasantly surprised at his response. To be honest, I was unaware that the march was taking place and I didn’t really know what it was about. Families Belong Together was a national march that recently took place in cities across the country on June 30th that aimed to protest the separation of immigrant children from their families at the US-Mexico border. I was impressed with his interest in protesting the separation of immigrant families because he expressed that he could relate to the impact of being a child taken away from his biological family. He spoke very passionately about his disagreement with the current presidential administration’s Zero Tolerance Policy on immigration and the negative effects that could potentially harm ...

Opinion on Trump’s Zero Tolerance Policy from a Foster Kid!

I can remember it like it was yesterday! The day that I got separated from my biological family has been seared into my memory for the last 21 years. It was a somber day. It was filled with dread, sadness, and anxiety as I put my life possessions into black trash bags: toys, clothes, and games…most of which I would never see again anyway. My siblings and I had no idea what fate awaited us as we piled into the back seat of the social workers car… a woman whom we would never see again either! Being separated from my family was devastating. The trauma that was produced from that early experience marked my adolescence with trust issues, problems with authority figures, and a battle with rejection that I continue to engage in to this day. After spending about 7 years in the Michigan foster care system, I can attest to the fact that it is an experience that no one should ever have to endure. My heart breaks when I view the images of children in distress after being separated from t...

Bio-Parent Bashing: Why We Do It & Why We Should Stop!

By: Sade Bradford-Bond I recently read an article about a popular reality TV star who did not raise her biological children. Controversy has swarmed after a recent “revelation” that the stars’ children may have been raised in foster care. The reactions that I reviewed were, unsurprisingly negative, angry, and outright hurtful towards this star. I do not pretend to know the details about what happened or what caused this star to not raise her biological children. Those details, perhaps for the sake of this article, are not relevant. What I find most interesting is how popular culture in America tends to view biological parents who lose their children to the foster care system as villains, especially mothers. After working in social services for some time, I cannot express how nauseated I’ve become after witnessing the ill treatment of biological parents fighting to get their children out of foster care, especially mothers. I’m reminded of a meeting that I participated in...

Avoiding The Holiday Blues: Latest Release From Author, Sade Bradford-Bond

Avoiding The Holiday Blues: Support For People Who Experienced Foster Care During the Holiday Season The most wonderful time of the year is often a source of sadness, depression, and anxiety for thousands of people who experienced the foster care system. The holiday season can be a bitter reminder of the separation from the people who matter most and time spent in foster care during milestone events that can never be reclaimed. Avoiding The Holiday Blues offers a practical approach to help support individuals who may feel sad during the holidays. It includes strategies that can be immediately implemented to help anyone who experienced foster care to avoid the dreaded holiday blues!

Foster Youth Leadership: Lessons Learned From Peaches & Social Media

In today’s society, it seems as if everyone wants to be an overnight celebrity. With recent trends of, “going viral,” in Social Media, the average Joe (and Jane) can become famous and well-paid at the click of a mouse. Are values like, hard work, practice, and discipline becoming obsolete in an age where people can gain access to their15 minutes of fame with a few million views and followers? One of the leadership topics that I enjoy discussing with foster youth is discovering their passion. I encourage them to find out what they are good at, and to start developing those skills as early as possible. Whether its sports, science, writing, or any other interests, the main objective is to first identify their skills and then work hard to master them so that they can become the best in their craft. The recent situation with Arizona peach crops has highlighted the need for young people to get back to the basics of going through the process of leadership development. This process i...

10 Tips To Avoid the Holiday Blues for Foster Kids

10 Tips for Foster Kids to Avoid the Holiday Blues As the holiday season approaches, thousands of foster kids prepare to spend the holidays separated from their biological families. Even countless more aged-out adults face big decisions on how they will spend the holidays after exiting the foster care system. Below is a practical list of things that can be done (and not done), to avoid being sad and depressed during this upcoming holiday season. 1.       Avoid throwing yourself a pity party! 2.       Don’t be around people who trigger you emotionally. 3.       Spend time with a positive friend, relative, or other personal connection that you enjoy. 4.       Reach out and talk to a positive friend, relative, or other personal connection about how you feel if needed. 5.       Be intentional and celebrate someone close to you that has had a pos...